Are You Stuck In Self-Acceptance? Try This!

The most crucial relation in your life is with yourself. It doesn’t matter how the world sees you and people’s perception of you. It’s essential to figure out how you feel about yourself. In all of you, there is always something hard to swallow that triggers you the most. It’s permanently blocking your way to love yourself and toward your self-acceptance. Either it’s about your skin, your relations, or your finances. It can be anything about you, and you are not ready to accept it.

You have two sides. One is good, and the other is not. Some things are in your control, and some are not in your control. My question is that…

How do you feel about yourself?

If you are trying to figure out how to live a happy life confidently and without insecurities, or if you are figuring out how to live happily in your skin, then think about this question.

In you, in me, there are a lot of flaws. I know how the insecurities feel. I know how bad it feels when you compare yourself with others. What you can’t change, you have to accept. As a life coach, I see many people and observe how they live sorrowfully just because they are not accepting what they are. No doubt it’s hard, but you must prepare yourself to take what you can’t change.

 

What is self-acceptance?

Self-acceptance is being comfortable with your deficiencies. It is acceptance of who you are and who you can’t. It is acceptance of how you were created. It is the acceptance of things related to you that you can not control. Accepting yourself is witnessing your strengths and weaknesses. I don’t want you to focus on weaknesses and forget strengths when you hear the word self-acceptance. Accept your strengths and grow with them.

Self-acceptance is not about accepting your bad habits and the things you can change. It’s not about accepting everything and staying the same. You have to give yourself enough space to grow and change. You must understand that at this time, in this precious moment, if you do not like yourself and are not accepting what you are and how you were created, it’s a real shame.

Keep it in mind:

Loneliness is not the absence of people around you; the worst loneliness is when you are uncomfortable with yourself and don’t like yourself. People around you, whom you find very comfortable and confident, are not always like this. Believe me, everyone goes through that stage where they either accept themselves and work on themselves or give up and choose to live with insecurities.

Brave people do not run from their truth; they stay and look at what they can do, accept their flaws, and live confidently. They know there are a lot of good things with their deficiencies.

 

How I Accept Who I Am?

You only need to know one thing to become more significant in your life, and that is who you are. Looking back, I can see I was living with low confidence. My journey started 10 years ago when I was a student. There were many things that I did not accept, and there was always a war inside me. It killed my happiness. I was not okay with my skin color and how I looked. I was not in love with me. I wanted to be like others and how they looked.

The comparison was something which was a thief of my peace. It was so high that I started to panic. I got anxious. If I had to go somewhere, it was the first thing that came to mind: how would I look to people? I observed it and realized it’s not how people look toward me. It’s a matter of how I look toward myself. I was not happy because happiness is when you are satisfied and happy in being you.

 

I trained my mind and freed myself from the opinions of other people. Those people who are not living my life, who are not responsible for anything in my life, I did not have to attach my happiness to their opinions. I accept me. The first step I took was to go in front of the mirror and say sorry while I was looking at my eyes in the mirror. I said genuinely sorry and promised myself never to judge me for it. And the girl in the mirror smiled and forgave me. She welcomed me. I realized what I wanted; I had to give it to myself first. It was my responsibility. I realized I am enough, I don’t need to prove my worth to anyone. I am worthy simply because I exist.

I knew what I was before I accepted myself. I was weak, I was living with insecurities. I was not carrying my true self. I was living in the darkness. I am happy to see myself now out of this. My real life starts after I follow these steps, which I will explain below. No one is perfect in this world. Life becomes so easy when you are comfortable with yourself. I faced the judgments, but no one judged me harder than myself. My life changed when I changed the way I think about myself.

 

Accept Yourself

The way you look, the things you faced in your past, the people you dated, the decisions you make, the work you do, the shape of your face, and the length of your hair are all part of you right now. Open your eyes and see how blessed you are. See, no one in this world is like you.

 

• • Accept your past mistakes, no matter how shameful they were.
  • Accept you are worthy enough to live a very confident life.
  • Accept you got anxious and nervous about something.
  • Accept that God gives you good characteristics.
  • Accept what you can’t change about you.
  • Accept you are loveable and unique.
  • Accept that you panic sometimes.
  • Accept how you were created.
  • Accept all your blood relations.
  • Accept that you are not perfect.

 

If you don’t accept, you will suffer badly. The lack of self-acceptance involves anger, bitterness, anxiety, and self-hate. You know, living like this is exhausting. You know you are not at peace. You only need to accept yourself. You have to stand up for your happiness and peace. A lack of self-acceptance only gives you pain, suffering, and insecurities. Only you can free yourself from that situation. Only you can help yourself. Follow the following tips to change your thoughts and start your self-acceptance journey.

 

Face The Truth

Stop avoiding yourself, talk about how you feel, and talk about the things that disturb you. Don’t cover yourself. Be open and see where you need help. What is the one thing you are struggling most to accept about yourself? Don’t be ashamed; share your insecurities with your loved ones. When you stop thinking about them and start talking, your mind gets control over them. It became part of your consciousness.

 

Then you know you have to work on them. Accept it, feel the pain, and show compassion to yourself. You have to free yourself from that. Facing your truth is the first step toward the journey of self-acceptance. Truth is worthy no matter how much it is ugly. Covering is disgusting, no matter how beautiful it is. Be yourself. You look more beautiful how you are then when you trying to look like someone else.

 

Make a firm Decision

No matter what, you have to accept yourself against all norms and conditions. Be in love with yourself. Be precious in your own eyes. My life shift when I decide that every person is worthy and deserves appreciation and love, including me. And you must decide that you are going to live a great life. You are going to be your most enormous support.

Make a decision, and don’t look back. You will face those conditions repeatedly in your life where you must accept what you are. Decide it, you will be yourself and not change your decision just because you are going differently than the people around you.

Decide it, and you will spread love and kindness. Remember, you are the first in a row that deserves your love the most.

 

Forgive Yourself

I know there must be many things you didn’t like in the past. You go through the worst experiences, or maybe something terrible happened. You realize it later, and you are ashamed of doing it. Can you change it? My dear, you can not. It’s not in your control. You were wrong because you have to go through the process to learn. Don’t criticize you and accept it. It was the part of learning.

 

Forgive yourself for how cruel you were towards you. Holding on to regrets and mistakes will prevent self-acceptance. You need to make those mistakes to gain wisdom. You learn from the mistakes. Removing the errors means stopping the growth. Forgive yourself; you are a human, and you are not perfect.

 

Stop Aiming For Perfection

Stop aiming for perfection because it doesn’t exist. Suppose you reach perfection, then what will be your next step? Your growth will stop. Your life gets boring when you get everything you want. Perfectionism is a self-destructive. It is an unattainable goal. Social media is showing so much perfection nowadays. People highlight only the best moments, creating an illusion of perfection. Remember, everyone has struggles, just hidden from the feed.

So stop chasing perfectionism. Be in progress. Go through the process. You do not have to be perfect to love yourself, you have to accept what you own. It’s a secret to progress. You can be imperfect and still do good. Adopt a growth attitude and focus on the process.

 

Stop Comparing Yourself

Awareness is a key. The first step is recognizing when you’re comparing yourself to others. Be mindful of your thoughts and feelings, especially when scrolling through social media or interacting with people. Once you identify a comparison thought in your mind, question its validity.

Are those people more worthy than you?

Stop it. Just stop it. Work on yourself. Comparison eats all your happiness and peace. Give your best and do what you do honestly. If someone makes you feel inferior, set boundaries and distance yourself from negativity. Surround yourself with people who uplift and appreciate you.

 

Take Action

If you are doing things against your values, take action and do something different.

Start acting according to your values and worth; then, you will not criticize yourself. Take action for the things that are in your control. Make a list of things within your control, like your thoughts, actions, habits, and reactions. Focus on these areas, not external factors you cannot change.

Change what you can change in your life and accept what you can not change. Be aware of yourself and take yourself as you are; then, you can love yourself. Appreciate yourself for the good things, your life, and your experiences. Practice gratitude, and you will see how your life becomes more straightforward.

If you enjoy reading this, you will love to read my previous blog on how I stopped doubting myself and started living my dream life.